Dear brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers in the church, for we who teach will be judged more strictly. Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.
We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong… James 3:1-4
You learn a lot about yourself when you have children. Our boys taught me patience (believe me, before them I had NO patience!), but Raelee has taught me so much more about myself because she is a little sponge – always soaking in my words and my behavior. I have got onto Christian many times about the things we say to each other, because she is always watching and waiting to use those words. We’ve never watched too much TV when she is around, especially the past 4-5 months, we haven’t had the TV on at all except for her couple shows in the morning before school, so that she doesn’t pick up language and behavior that we don’t model at home. There are things she picks up at school, I’m pretty sure that butt-head came from somebody at school. Then there was the day she told her cousin, who is her “best friend” that if he didn’t stop what he was doing that she wouldn’t love him anymore and never forgive him. I told her we ALWAYS forgive in our house, so I don’t know for sure where that came from. She called me a zealot one day, and of course out of context but that came from our Bible reading.
But yesterday, going to the grocery store, she was in her car seat with her new shoes on and she says “Aren’t these shoes just so sexy?” Wait, did I just hear what I think I heard? I looked at Christian and he said “Yes, she just said what you think she said” I looked at her and said “What?” She repeated the question, and yes, it was just what I thought. I didn’t have an answer, that word coming out of her 5 year-old-innocent mouth was just so shocking. And the thing was, I KNEW that came from our house! At that moment I was promising God that I would NEVER say that word again if He would just keep it from coming out of her mouth! I told her she shouldn’t say that, and she asked why. I looked at her perplexed looking daddy for help and under his breath he said “Tell her that is a grown-up word”.
“Raelee, that word is for grown-ups. When you are married, that is something you tell each other because you love them. So, don’t say that anymore.” She thought for a minute and said “Well you and Daddy have a very sexy marriage then”! Funny and not so funny how kids pick up the things we say and do, and there are so many things we don’t realize how inappropriate they are for a child until it is coming out of there sweet little mouths!